It really is possible to spend a lifetime trying to forget a few minutes of something that happened to you as a child. I know from experience that childhood trauma can affect you even as an adult.
Trying to forget makes it bigger, the key is to accept and embrace that it happened and start dealing with it. Get help if you need. There is no shame in seeking support.
Nedra Tawwar shares a few reminders for people who experienced childhood trauma.
- You can teach yourself what you wish your parents would've taught you
- You gain peace through forgiveness (it's a process)
- Some people won't apologise or recognise what they did as "wrong"
- You can be for yourself what you needed from others.
- You cant forget what happened, but you can learn to cope with what happened.
- You are not alone (people don't talk about childhood trauma openly)
- You can create a healthy life
- You don't have to repeat the cycle.
I am in the process of applying these and I hope this helps you as well.